There are those whose primary ability is to spin wheels of manipulation. It is their second skin and without these spinning wheels, they simply do not know how to function. They are like toys on wheels of manipulation and control. If you remove one of the wheels, they'll never be able to feel secure, be whole.
It will take time for you to realize who used you and who helped you. Trust is blind faith when you hand it to the wrong person. Now you will have to bear the consequences.